A young woman has shared her emotional struggle with ending her engagement, even though she deeply loved her fiancé for two years.
According to her, their relationship was filled with genuine affection, laughter, growth, and shared dreams about the future.
“We grew together, shared plans, laughed, even talked about the future like two people who were sure of each other,” she said.
However, after accepting his proposal, she noticed a shift in her emotions. She explained that her fiancé did nothing wrong and remains the same caring, loving, and supportive man she has always known.
“He didn’t hurt me, he didn’t change. The problem is not him, it’s in my heart,” she admitted.
Over time, the excitement and certainty she once felt about marriage began to fade. Despite praying, suppressing her feelings, and trying to ignore her doubts to avoid hurting him, she realised she was no longer fully sure about spending the rest of her life with him.
She confided in two friends, but they warned her that calling off the engagement might lead to regret and unforgiveness.
Still, she insists her decision is not influenced by another person.
“I honestly loved this guy for the past two years, and accepting the engagement was real. But I don’t feel the strong love and certainty I need before marriage,” she said.
The young woman emphasised that she does not want to enter marriage with doubt or pretense, especially since her fiancé deserves someone completely certain of their love.
“My heart is heavy. I want to call off this engagement because I don’t want to ever imagine hurting this guy,” she added.
When she briefly informed her parents, her father reacted harshly, calling her “ogbanje” — a term in Igbo culture referring to a spirit child believed to cause repeated misfortune.
Despite the criticism and emotional weight, she stands by her feelings and is now seeking the best way to communicate her decision to her fiancé without guilt. She also hopes they can remain friends after the breakup.
“Yes, we promised not to leave each other. But this is life, and sometimes we can’t question certain things,” she concluded.
Reactions
Social media users have shared mixed reactions to her story:
Empathetic supporters praised her honesty and emotional maturity.
“It takes courage to admit that your heart has changed. Better to be honest now than live a lie,” one user commented.
Critics questioned her decision, especially given the two-year relationship.
“Two years of love doesn’t just disappear. Maybe she’s overthinking,” another user said.
Cultural observers noted the pressure of family expectations.
“Her father calling her ‘ogbanje’ shows how traditions can make it even harder for someone to follow their heart,” a social commentator wrote.
Relationship experts highlighted the importance of self-awareness before marriage.
“Knowing your own heart and being honest before marriage is crucial. It prevents future heartbreak for both partners,” a relationship counselor explained.
Published by Ejoh Caleb
