A woman’s post on X (formerly Twitter) has sparked renewed conversations around consent, personal boundaries, and safety—especially during first dates.
In her post, the lady recounted how a seemingly harmless first date at a shopping mall quickly turned uncomfortable after the man repeatedly ignored her refusal to be kissed.
According to her, they were having a normal conversation when the situation suddenly escalated.
“I went on a first date recently and while having a conversation with this man, he grabbed me and tried to kiss me,” she wrote.
She explained that she turned her cheek—not because she lacked interest or attraction—but because she didn’t feel safe.
“I don’t know who this man is, and I didn’t feel safe making out with someone I just met in a mall,” she added.
Rather than respecting her reaction, the man questioned her boundaries, asking why she didn’t want to kiss him. She said she responded clearly and calmly:
“No, I don’t really know you and I’m not comfortable with that.”
However, his response, according to her, was dismissive.
“He said, ‘Oh well, it’s basically already happened,’ and proceeded to try and kiss me again,” she stated.
She pulled away once more and told him she preferred to continue talking instead. Yet, the behaviour allegedly persisted.
“The conversation started back up and two minutes later, he was attempting to kiss me again,” she wrote.
At that point, she decided to end the date and leave the scene.
She concluded her post with a firm reminder on consent and boundaries:
“If I have to say no more than once, I’m already not interested.”
The post has since drawn widespread reactions online, with many users applauding her for speaking up and emphasizing that consent must be respected—once is enough, and no should always mean no.
Public Reactions Trail the Post
The post sparked strong reactions from users who praised her stance and criticised the man’s actions.
TeeBag wrote, “People should learn to respect other people’s boundaries and this is an area most of us men have failed in.”
Davian commented, “Saying ‘no’ more than once isn’t negotiation, it’s clear communication that must be respected.”
Esperanza wrote, “If ‘no’ isn’t respected the first time, there shouldn’t be a second chance.”
She added, “Trust your gut, if they won’t listen to your boundaries on day one, they aren’t the one. You deserve safety and respect, always. Proud of you for walking away.”
Fein stated, “If someone can’t respect a single ‘no,’ it’s already over. You don’t owe anyone more chances when your boundaries are clear.”
Alice added, “You handled that perfectly. Repeatedly ignoring your no is a huge red flag. Consent isn’t confusion, and discomfort is reason enough to leave.”
Published by Ejoh Caleb
