A Nigerian man has ignited widespread debate on social media after sharing blunt relationship advice directed at young women, particularly those in their mid-twenties.
The post, shared on X (formerly Twitter), quickly gained traction for its direct tone and traditional views on love, commitment, and marriage timing. While some users praised his honesty, others criticised the message as outdated and pressuring.
In his post, the man urged women aged 25 and above to approach romantic relationships with greater seriousness, warning against treating relationships as casual for too long. According to him, relationship decisions should become more intentional once a woman reaches her mid-twenties.
He argued that postponing commitment until the late twenties or early thirties could reduce relationship options and create emotional pressure, claiming that some men take advantage of women who feel rushed to settle down later in life.
Although he acknowledged that many women openly state that marriage is not a priority, he insisted that most still desire it “deep down.” He encouraged young women to pursue education, careers, and business goals, but not at the expense of meaningful relationships.
The man advised women to remain open when they meet a serious and promising partner instead of endlessly postponing commitment. According to him, building a successful future should involve both personal growth and emotional partnership, warning that waiting too long could mean overlooking people with genuine intentions.
One of the most controversial parts of the post focused on domestic expectations. He criticised the popular phrase, “I won’t cook for a man until we’re married,” describing it as a red flag for men seeking serious relationships. He claimed many men see such boundaries as unwelcoming or risky.
However, he clarified that women are not expected to overperform or fully assume a “wife role” while dating, but warned against appearing completely hostile or emotionally distant.
The post also touched on emotional dynamics, with the writer claiming that respect matters more to men than verbal expressions of love. According to him, saying “I love you” is not enough without consistent respect, support, and appreciation.
He concluded by advising women to value men who are responsible, hardworking, and focused on the future, ending his message with a call to faith, urging women to “love God above all.”
As expected, the post sparked mixed reactions online, with some agreeing with his perspective and others pushing back against what they described as societal pressure placed on women.
Mixed Reactions Trail the Post Online
The post quickly sparked heated reactions across X, with users sharply divided over the man’s views.
Some users agreed with his message, describing it as a hard but honest reality check.
One user wrote, “People are angry, but he didn’t really lie. Time is a factor whether we like it or not.”
Another added, “You can build your career and still take relationships seriously. It doesn’t have to be one or the other.”
Others, however, strongly disagreed, calling the post patriarchal and unnecessarily pressuring.
“Why is the burden of timing always on women?” one user asked. “Men age too, but nobody lectures them like this.”
Another commenter wrote, “Cooking is not proof of love or seriousness. Boundaries don’t mean hostility.”
Some users took a more neutral stance, arguing that while parts of the message made sense, the delivery was the real issue.
“There are valid points here, but the tone makes it sound like women are on a deadline,” one post read.
As the debate continues, the post has reignited broader conversations around marriage pressure, gender roles, and modern relationships in Nigeria.
Published by Ejoh Caleb
