A Nigerian clergyman has issued a strong warning to married men, cautioning them against allowing their wives to carry the financial responsibility of the home for an extended period, noting that such arrangements can negatively affect marriages if not carefully managed.
In a recent message that has sparked conversations online, the cleric acknowledged that many women are supportive and willing to step in during difficult financial seasons. However, he stressed that when this situation persists for too long, it can create emotional and psychological strain within the marriage.
According to him, although women may rise to the occasion out of love and commitment, they are not naturally designed to shoulder the primary financial burden of the household on a long-term basis. He explained that this imbalance can gradually affect respect, emotional connection, and overall marital harmony.
The cleric also spoke about the emotional struggles men face during financial hardship, noting that many experience intense internal pressure but lack the emotional intelligence or communication skills needed to properly express their feelings. This, he said, often leads to silence, frustration, or misunderstandings that further strain the relationship.
He described this period as a particularly sensitive phase in a man’s life, emphasizing that intentional financial rebuilding is crucial. According to him, men must be deliberate about improving their financial situation and reclaiming their role as providers.
Describing provision as both a personal responsibility and a moral obligation, the cleric warned that failing to provide for one’s household can have serious consequences for family stability and marital peace.
In his words:
“I don’t care how supportive your wife is, if she carries the financial burden of the house for too long, it will take a toll on your marriage. I don’t care how supportive she is or how much she loves you. Because one, she is not built for it and unfortunately some men do not have the wisdom required in that phase of their relationship. They are feeling genuine stress but they don’t know how to communicate it well. Because at that phase in the life of a man, he is more sensitive than ever. So, as a man you have to be intentional about building your finances. Whether you like it or not you have to provide. God has put you in that space. The scripture says that a man who cannot provide for his family is worse than an infidel.”
The message has generated mixed reactions online, with some agreeing on the importance of male responsibility in the home, while others argue for shared financial roles based on mutual understanding and circumstances.
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Published by Ejoh Caleb
