A woman has sparked intense conversations online after sharing a blunt warning to women about men who pretend to be obsessed with them, describing the behaviour as calculated, deceptive, and emotionally dangerous.
According to the lady, many men deliberately act obsessed in relationships, not because of genuine love or deep emotional attachment, but as a strategy to keep a woman emotionally hooked. She explained that this fake obsession is often convincing enough to make a woman feel special, irreplaceable, and deeply desired.
“Men can fake obsession,” she said. “It’s a fake obsession for you, but it makes you feel like they are obsessed with you, like they can’t live without you.”
She noted that this illusion is carefully constructed to make a woman believe she is the only person in the man’s life, thereby lowering her guard and increasing emotional dependency. Over time, this can be mistaken for love, commitment, or seriousness, when in reality, it may be none of those.
The lady further explained that what many women interpret as jealousy or possessiveness is often staged. According to her, some men intentionally act jealous when they see a woman with another man—not because they truly care, but because they know jealousy reinforces the idea of love.
“If he sees you with another boy, he’ll pretend to be jealous,” she said. “Na lie, na fake fake jealousy. It’s not real jealousy. He knows that if he doesn’t show that jealousy, you’ll feel like he doesn’t love you.”
She warned that this behaviour is usually transactional, driven by selfish interests rather than genuine concern for a woman’s wellbeing. In her words, such men are not emotionally invested but are focused solely on what they can gain.
“It’s not care,” she stated bluntly. “He’s just there for your body.”
Her message has resonated with many women online, with commenters sharing personal experiences of being caught in relationships where intense attention and obsession later vanished once the man got what he wanted.
The lady urged women to look beyond dramatic displays of affection and jealousy, advising them to focus on consistency, respect, and genuine care rather than emotional theatrics.
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Published by Ejoh Caleb
