A young lady identified as Fatima Saleh has questioned those who advise married women to leave their abusive partners.
The lady asked where those women suffering in their marriages live.
According to her, most of these women stay in abusive marriages because some parents give their strict warnings never to return from their husband’s houses immediately after they marry.
She highlights that most parents are not ready to welcome their daughters home from their failed marriages, hence forcing these women to stay in their abusive marriages.
“Those of you who always tell women in an abusive marriage to leave. To where, please? Where should they leave to? This is a serious question.
“Do you know there are parents that do make this strict warning to their female child “as you’re leaving this house, you dare not return, your husband’s home is your home from henceforth”, you can only visit and go”.
I keep on seeing abusive marriage everywhere but the question is, how many family are ready to welcome their daughter from a failed marriage?.”
My sister saw this tweet and said if Allah wills she’ll build a big house for women in abusive marriages who have nowhere to go because their parents told them not to return home ..and provide them with everything ❤
May Allah give u the courage and ability to do so”, part of her post read.
See Some Reaction Below:
@BelleAiresMusic: That’s why it’s great for a woman to be financially independent/ secure…. It gives her leverage to be able to go somewhere… but for those who aren’t … I guess it would be nice to have a community of women who support them at such a time…but the community would require funding
@priscy_girl: Even if her family doesn’t want her back and she doesn’t work,she should leave. She might stuff, she’ll struggle but it’s better being alive than dead.
What’s the point being dead?
@onlyonechichi: They should stay and hold their baby tight, who dey wan leave the werey for?
@wemzlaw: Her parents house for one. I feel like an abusive marriage is grounds for an exception for a woman to run back to her parents home. Why will a man be beating his wife and the girl’s parents won’t take their daughter refuge??
@Spazzie: This is why women should prioritize becoming independent before getting married.
Commit to yourself first. Pursue a career or business, and secure your own financial stability.
It may be challenging, but this approach is key to avoiding feelings of helplessness or dependence in the face of an abusive marriage.
@PendingUstaz: I firmly believe that any woman in an abusive marriage should return to her family. Parents who insist their daughters stay in a harmful marriage, no matter what, are doing more harm than good. If your daughter is being mistreated—beaten or abused—bring her home. It’s not that you can’t feed or clothe her; she’s your child, and her safety comes first.
I was raised to respect women. Our fathers married women from other families, and they treated them with care. So, if you marry my sister or daughter and abuse her, I won’t stand for it. If you hit her, I’ll come to your house and deal with you myself. If you don’t want her, divorce her and let her come back home.
It’s absurd for parents to force their daughters to endure abuse. Protect your own—feed her, clothe her, and give her a safe space. We don’t mistreat women in our family, and we won’t let anyone else do it either. Respect is non-negotiable.
Published by Ejoh Caleb
