Nollywood actress Bisola Aiyeola has talked candidly about motherhood and her experience raising a child alone.
In an interview with Mums Next Door, the single mother disclosed which parts of motherhood she has not liked and why.
Bisola Aiyeola was candid when discussing the three difficulties she encountered as a mother.
She discussed the physical changes, the sacrifices, and the overwhelming nature of raising a family. In her words:
“Have I always enjoyed motherhood? No. I have not always enjoyed motherhood. There are moments I enjoy so it’s a yes and no answer. But it is overwhelming. I look at her sometimes and say, “Honey, why do you have to please everyone?” We have certain conversations about managing her, work, and her own emotions. It is not possible. You should stand your ground. Say no. It’s okay to say no.
There was a time when there was a competition in her school and her team didn’t get picked, and she was really upset.
She is so passionate about school work that if any of her teammates or classmates are not on the same page with her, she starts crying and some people are like “I don’t want to work with Laila, Laila’s own is too much.” I had to tell her that honey look, you need to be able to strike a balance. So managing those emotions can be overwhelming.”
On physical changes and how it has affected her, Bisola continued:
“I was a lot younger when I had Laila, I’m much older now. Life has changed. My body is not the same. I have issues with my back, and those issues started after I had Laila. My pregnancy and delivery were the cause of those problems for me.
Speaking about how she’s had to make sacrifices and put some of her own desires on hold because of her 15-year-old daughter, Bisola said:
“I have put several desires on hold because of motherhood, some I will not go into. But mostly, sometimes work. Certain roles have come my way that I’m like if I do this, my daughter’s friends follow me. She literally sends me emails that her friends have sent to her of screenshots of some things that I’ve posted on social media. She’s pretty tough but I still don’t want to put her in any situation that would make her feel like why did my mum do this? I must therefore take her feelings into account.
