A Nigerian man has set social media abuzz after openly sharing his uncompromising conditions for marriage, declaring that cohabitation before marriage is non-negotiable for him.
The man made his views public in a post on X (formerly Twitter), where he argued that living together before marriage is the only way to truly know a partner. According to him, romance, dates, and occasional visits often hide people’s real habits and character.
“Cohabitation is a must for me,” he wrote.
“I can’t marry a woman who hasn’t lived with me for at least six months to one year.”
“Dating Masks Will Eventually Fall Off”
Explaining his stance, the man said that living under the same roof exposes the real version of a person — not the polished image people present during courtship.
He stressed that cohabitation reveals everyday routines, discipline, and consistency, things that cannot be judged from weekend visits or sweet phone conversations.
One of his strongest opinions centered on daily habits. He described waking up late as a serious red flag, stating that:
“Sleeping past 7 a.m. is a hard red flag. Laziness can ruin a home.”
To him, responsibility and productivity are non-negotiable traits in a life partner.
Sexual Compatibility and Expectations
The post also touched on sexual compatibility, a topic that quickly fueled further debate online. The man openly stated that he values an active sex life in marriage.
“I love sex and I expect us to have sex at least twice a week,” he said.
He added that he does not want a partner who frequently declines intimacy with phrases like “I’m not in the mood” or “I don’t feel like.” According to him, mismatched sexual expectations can create long-term frustration in marriage.
Handling Conflict Behind Closed Doors
Another key reason he supports cohabitation is conflict observation. He believes living together allows him to see how a partner reacts during disagreements.
He questioned whether, when angry, she would:
Stop cooking
Lock him out
Withdraw affection
Or openly challenge his authority
To him, these reactions are crucial indicators of compatibility and respect.
Internet Reacts: Sense or Control?
Unsurprisingly, the post sparked intense reactions online. While some users agreed that cohabitation helps reveal hidden habits and incompatibilities, others criticized his views as controlling, one-sided, and dismissive of personal boundaries.
Many also pointed out cultural, religious, and emotional concerns around cohabitation, especially within Nigerian society, where traditional values still strongly influence marriage decisions.
Whether seen as practical honesty or excessive rigidity, one thing is certain: the man’s views have reignited a long-standing debate about love, marriage, expectations, and modern relationships in Nigeria.
Published by Ejoh Caleb
