A Nigerian woman has ignited intense debate on social media after expressing frustration over what she described as excessive and unfamiliar demands from extended family members ahead of her wedding.
In an emotional outburst shared online, the woman questioned why her fiancé, who is ready to marry her, is being burdened with long lists of financial obligations imposed by relatives she claims have never played any meaningful role in her life.
According to her, the situation became overwhelming when extended family members began insisting that her partner must “settle” umunna and umuada—traditional family groups—before the marriage could be approved.
“If you see this list, guys, it will shock you. And this umunna they are talking about, I have not received ₦5 from them. I don’t even know them. These people requesting for things—I don’t know them,” she lamented.
She further expressed anger over what she sees as hypocrisy, noting that none of those making demands had supported her in any way while she was growing up.
“These people have never bought me sweet before, even pad they have not given me, even book or pencil—nothing. And now everybody is umunna. I don’t know whether it’s only my village doing this, but guys, it’s too much,” she said.
The woman questioned why her marriage should be delayed or possibly cancelled simply because her fiancé may not be able to meet the financial expectations set by people she barely knows.
Her comments have since sparked widespread reactions online, with many Nigerians debating the relevance, fairness, and modern-day impact of traditional marriage customs, especially when they place financial strain on couples.
Social media reactions
@imobiho_gabby commented: “When the bride price is outrageous, who go marry una lo!”
@Skaizen101 wrote: “If you no fit afford the list, no go near Igbo girl. Quality no cheap.”
@ft_analytics91 added: “She’s right. Bride price has become an avenue of extortion by extended family members.”
@Doll_MasterChief said: “Your papa chop others daughter own bride price, now it’s your turn.”
@mohitolewis noted: “Every culture evolves. Which traditions still serve us today?”
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