A young Nigerian man has opened up about his heartbreak after discovering through a medical test that he might never be able to father children. The news has left him feeling devastated, bewildered, and struggling with depression.
The man’s heartfelt confession was sent in private to well-known relationship and mental health counselor Agba John Doe, who posted the anonymous account on his X (previously Twitter) page to increase awareness of male infertility and the mental health effects it can have.
The man, who disclosed that October 1 would be his 34th birthday, wrote in the message that his long-held desire to have children had been dashed when the test results indicated that his sperm cells were totally nonviable.
“Agba, I’m devastated. Recently ran a test because of my situation, and the worst is that my sperm cells are completely dead. By October 1st, I’ll be 34, no kids, and my sperm cells are dead. Agba, I love kids, and now I can’t have mine,” he wrote.
He expressed deep anxiety about the societal and family pressures to marry and start a family, adding that he is struggling to cope with the emotional weight of his diagnosis.
“What will be my excuse when the pressure from family to get married comes? What will I tell them? I’m depressed, and confused, and I cry whenever that result flashes… Sir, I don’t want to believe that it is finished. Please, is there any solution to my situation right now?”
