A Nigerian lady has stirred conversation online after sharing her experience with a former roommate from the National Youth Service Corps (NYSC), raising questions about friendship, loyalty, and boundaries after service.
According to her, their relationship ended immediately after the service year, with all her attempts to stay in touch ignored.
“So, my roommate during NYSC stopped talking to me immediately our service year ended. Even when I wished her a happy birthday, she never acknowledged it, so I stopped reaching out. I just accepted that whatever we had ended with service,” she said.
The situation took a surprising turn when the former roommate recently reappeared—this time with a request.
“Yesterday, she texted me on WhatsApp saying she’s coming to my hometown to get material for her wedding asoebi and asked if she could spend the night at our family house. Omo, up till now, I never reply. She dey craze,” she added.
The post quickly gained traction, with many Nigerians relating to the experience of friendships that fade after NYSC, only to resurface when help is needed.
Reactions have been divided. Some people believe she should ignore the message completely, arguing that respect and communication should go both ways. Others suggest replying politely but setting firm boundaries—acknowledging the message without necessarily agreeing to the request.
At its core, the situation highlights a common dilemma:
just because someone was once close doesn’t automatically entitle them to access, especially after a long period of silence.
If she chooses to respond, the key issue isn’t just whether to say yes or no—but how to handle it in a way that reflects her self-respect and expectations for future relationships.
Published by Ejoh Caleb
