A Nigerian woman has stirred widespread debate online after sharing controversial opinions on marriage choices, financial stability, and family obligations, particularly for firstborn children.
In a viral video making the rounds on social media, the lady argued that first daughters from financially struggling families should not prioritize love when choosing a life partner. According to her, such women often carry heavy responsibilities for their families and younger siblings, making financial security a more practical consideration than emotional attachment.
She maintained that marrying for love without financial stability could negatively affect not only the woman involved but also the siblings who look up to her for support and guidance. She questioned the example a financially unstable marriage would set for younger family members and suggested that personal sacrifices are sometimes unavoidable due to family circumstances.
Extending her argument to men, the lady stated that first sons who rise from poor backgrounds to financial success should avoid marrying partners who are not economically stable. In her view, individuals who have struggled before “making it” should choose spouses who match their current financial status.
According to her, marrying someone who is financially unstable after achieving success could undo years of sacrifice and struggle. She further suggested that family influence—especially from mothers—often plays a role in guiding such decisions.
Her words below 👇
“As a first daughter from a struggling background, you have no business to marry for love. I know say broke boys go quarrel, they go vex. It’s not a normal thing for a woman, not a normal thing. So I really don’t give a fuss if you get pissed about what I just said. If you are a senior daughter, you have no business marrying for love. Chase the bag. Know who get the bag. Know who you go chase marry. When you get younger ones wey they look up to you. You want marry boy wey dey do vulcanizer? Wetin you want to make your younger ones marry?”
“And also as a first son, if you are from a family that is struggling and you later made it, never in your life settle for an hungry girl or a broke girl. Am I clear? You should marry somebody that is as rich as you. You have no business getting married to a poor girl as a first son. You know, I don’t even need to talk. Your mama will do the work. Don’t worry…”
Her comments have since triggered intense reactions online, with some agreeing that financial realities should guide marriage decisions, while others argue that love, character, and partnership matter more than wealth.
Watch the video below 👇
Published by Ejoh Caleb
