A social media post advising men to conceal parts of their struggles from their partners has ignited intense debate across Nigeria’s online space, with users sharply divided over emotional openness in relationships.
The comment, shared on X (formerly Twitter), questioned the value of full transparency between partners and suggested that men should always project strength, even in moments of deep personal or financial hardship.
In the now-viral post, the man argued that women are less forgiving when a man is completely “broken,” whether emotionally or financially. According to him, revealing too much vulnerability could be damaging to a relationship.
He wrote:
“As a man, no matter the challenge you are faced with, only reveal half of the problem to your partner. The other half is the solution you have underway.
Women are not forgiving when a man is 0/0. Always be seen as a man standing tall, even when you are down! Thank me later!”
The statement quickly gained traction, attracting thousands of views, reposts, and comments. While some users agreed with the sentiment—arguing that society places heavy expectations on men to be providers and problem-solvers—others strongly disagreed, insisting that withholding struggles from a partner undermines trust and emotional intimacy.
Critics of the post described the advice as outdated and harmful, noting that healthy relationships thrive on honesty and mutual support, especially during difficult times. Supporters, however, maintained that the reality of many relationships makes emotional self-preservation necessary for men.
As the discussion continues to trend, the post has reopened broader conversations about masculinity, vulnerability, and what true partnership should look like in modern relationships.
Netizens Share Mixed Reactions
Reacting, Ginger disagreed with the advice and stressed emotional honesty in relationships.
He said: “Men don’t need to hide problems. They need partners who can handle reality without panicking.”
Brendan also rejected the idea, sharing his personal experience with his wife.
He wrote: “Egbon I somehow disagree. Outside my wife being a pharmacist by training, she is a great problem solver.
“Anytime I am faced with a situation where solution is needed with speed, she is my refuge place. I reveal all even when I’m at 0/0 because I know she will come up with a sol.”
Tejiri described the advice as harmful and against the idea of partnership.
He said: “This is very bad advice. Marriage wasn’t designed like this. She’s called a “Help Meet” for a reason.
“Listening to your wife will reduce your error rate by at least 90%, be it in business, financial moves, problems you face as a man. It’s a team!”
Holla Nikki also emphasised trust and emotional support in relationships.
She wrote: “This is so wrong, Strength is important, yes. But so is trust. A partner isn’t just there to see you standing tall, she’s also there to stand with you when you’re figuring things out.”
Published by Ejoh Caleb
